DREAMNET #4 - CAUGHT REDDIT HANDED

[perchancetodreammods]

DREAMNET

Welcome to DreamNet!
To assist you in your goal of making meaningful connections, once in a while, you'll be asked a fun question or prompted to play a lighthearted game designed to spark conversation, with the opportunity to share your answers with fellow dreamers!

Today's question is...

Am I The Asshole?

Recall a conflict in your life (which can be completely truthful, heavily embellished, or a flat out fabrication) and submit your tale of woe to your fellow Dreamers for judgement as to whether or not you were in the wrong! Then read the stories of others, and pick a side using one of the following abbreviations:

YTA - "You're the asshole"
NTA - "Not the asshole" (may imply that the other party is the one in the wrong)
ESH - "Everyone sucks here," meaning everyone was in the wrong
NAH - "No assholes here," meaning no one is in the wrong

Already know you're the asshole, or just want to share something funny without judgement? Consider sharing a TIFU (today I fucked up) story instead!

Post this in a comment to participate!


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[perchancetodreammods]

Ask away!

@oathkeeper

[bi_fury_ous]

Megaera ⋅•⋅⊰∙∘☽༓☾∘∙⊱⋅•⋅

AITA for doing my job, even though the person involved is "nice"? For context for those who are not aware: I am one of the Furies of the Underworld. My job is to torment the damned. Generally my "clientele" are those who broke oaths or sworn duties, such as adulterers or deserters, but in this case the man in question committed a number of less specific but extremely serious crimes. The person I am referring to is a former king who, in addition to a myriad of other sins which earned him the ire of gods and mortals alike, cheated Death by trapping the god Thanatos in the chains that were intended for him. The experience was deeply distressing to Thanatos and his family, disrupted Underworld work flow drastically, and significantly worsened the charges brought against this already notorious man. It is only now, after decades of punishment by the hands of myself and my sisters, that the man seems to have turned over a new leaf. He has taken on a pleasant demeanor, is polite and respectful, and seems to have thoroughly reflected on his wrongdoing. Good for him, I suppose, but in my opinion and that of my employer, this change of heart does not negate the trouble he has caused in both life and in death. However, my employer's son, ever the idealist, has taken a shine to this man, and the severity of the ongoing punishment has become a point of contention, to the point where my employer's son is attempting to dispute the punishment. Am I the "asshole" in this situation if I advocate for denying the appeal? What do you think?

[woocas]

INFO: how long is this dude in the slammer for?

[bi_fury_ous]

Time is strange in the Underworld as we're immortal and cannot tell whether it is night or day, so it is hard to say exactly. I do know for certain Thanatos was chained up in a dark void in Tartarus for in excess of a year, at least, and his mother and siblings were beside themselves.

[woocas]

...Yeah, that's fair. Time means something different if you're gonna experience a lot of it. Guess he didn't really cheat death in the end?

[proto_alpha]

Sorry, but are you REALLY talking about Sisyphus?

[bi_fury_ous]

Ah, so you are familiar with him. Yes, I am. Prince Zagreus is the one attempting to refute the punishment, which I think is not only a poor idea on because it sets a troubling precedent of pardoning the worst of Tartarus on "good behavior," which I think could be exploited by Lord Hades' somewhat bureaucratic structure, but also damage the Prince's personal relationship with Thanatos, which I know they both value. To put it plainly, I think he is an idiot.

[proto_alpha]

Yeah, I kind of have to be with the family I come from.

There's nothing idiotic about believing that someone's capable of changing, or wanting to give them a second chance! But I hate to admit, there's a line between what's smart and what's prudent.

From what I remember about Sisyphus, giving him any sort of pardon would definitely not be prudent.

[woocas]

Lucas ⋅•⋅⊰∙∘☽༓☾∘∙⊱⋅•⋅

Am I the Asshole for pretending to be an Appletarian? Okay so, here me out. I thought it was brilliantly funny at the time, but in hindsight maaaaaybe I took things too far. When I first started at my job I pretended I had read this new diet trend on the internet where all you eat are apples and drink apple juice, right? One of those fad things. So, I managed to only eat apples and drink apple juice in front of coworkers for a solid two weeks. My main buddy sort of thought something was fishy about it but he's known me since I was eight, so...I might have over-hammed it then to really sell things. But I guess I was too good at it? We have these weekends where we go out into the field for a few days so it's kind of important to actually eat things. My ass landed in the boss's office on a Thursday and I cracked. He didn't really appreciate the joke, which was hilarious to me as a twenty year old fresh out of the Academy...So tell me! What do you think?

[killerwail]

LMAO

NTA this is def something i would do to my bestie too and she would totally believe im just wacko enough to be serious

u told him when it got important so whats the harm?

[woocas]

i'm like supposed to be an example officer or somethin' idk man!

i thought it was hilarious 10/10 would do again tbh

yo you think we can prank the outsider???

[proto_alpha]

You're not an a-hole. But you ARE kind of ridiculous.

[Allison is not giggling. SHE'S NOT. YOU ARE THE GIGGLER. SHE'S A VERY SERIOUS ALPHA PUPPY THAT DOES NOT FIND THIS REMOTELY FUNNY AT ALL.]

[woocas]

i am pretty ridiculous

ridiculously handsome! and cool!! so cool!!

...i forgot we don't have gifs here so just image me like eyebrow waggling right now

@expendable

[draculaslifecoach]

BARNEY ROSS ⋅•⋅⊰∙∘☽༓☾∘∙⊱⋅•⋅

Am I the Asshole for shooting a former employee? Here's the situation: I got a team for hire. We do what you'd call odd jobs--information retrieval, hostage extraction, the occasional 'strategic target elimination.' So me and my team had this job in Somalia to do the second one: hostage extraction. Long story short, guy on my team's got a drug problem and he got carried away on the assignment. Hostages were fine, but guy went into business for himself and I had to let him go. Flash forward a few days, and we get this new job: third one, elimination job. My guy comes looking for work, but I tell him no. He's out, he's still using and I can't trust him. He gets pissy about it, sells us out to the guy we were hired to go after, and then takes the payday a step further by coming after me and one of my men. Chases us down on the street, causes a crash, there's a fight, and by the time I get my hands on my gun he's about to impale his partner on a piece of rebar or something. So I shot him. He claimed he was just gonna scare the guy while he was bleeding out, but I call bullshit. Am I the asshole? Or was it justified? What do you think?

@banshee

[wantadistraction]

You had no reason to believe that he was just doing it to scare the guy. So you were justified in your actions and it sounds like he was the one being an asshole. Not that he was thinking straight from what it sounds like but still.

Do you feel bad about it or would you make the same choices over again?

[draculaslifecoach]

No, I don't--and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Caught a little bit of shit for it before I got here, but not much. Still, sometimes it bugs me a little. I mean, he's still one of mine, you know?

[woocas]

sounds like u really got into some shit dude

nta btw

[draculaslifecoach]

Story of my life, kid.

Does that hold even if I let the guy think he was dying so he'd feed me intel?

@tablesteward (CW: brief non-graphic mentions of physical child abuse)

[priceonmysoul]

Lance Dulac ⋅•⋅⊰∙∘☽༓☾∘∙⊱⋅•⋅

Am I the Asshole for threatening my best friend? Just want an opinion cause my buddy's still pissed about it. Also, blanket apology up front for the language to any ladies reading. I work with the FDNY, right? And I see a lotta shit, it's a hazard of the job. Sometimes, I lose my head, mess up, and I get written up or worse: hauled in. My best friend's a stuffed shirt (I say it with love) so he's got the lawyers and the dough to bail me out when I get into trouble and keeps my record clean. Well this time, I told him I'd break his jaw if he tried to bail me out when I got arrested. Happened while I was at work: showed up on an ambulance call for extra manpower, cardiac incident. Thing is, there's a boy in the house, couldn't be more than twelve. He's got a black eye, and when I saw the EMT's had the mother stable I went to check on him. That's when I saw the father grab his shoulder and shove him back out of the way. Didn't hurt him, not that time--but I'd wager that's how the kid got that black eye. We both got hauled in for assault after I dislocated his fucking shoulder. Cops are pretty familiar with me at this point, so they put us in separate holding cells across from each other, and I wasn't gonna let my buddy bail me out. I wanted to be there, to make sure the asshole saw me--that he knew I was coming for his ass. So I spent the night in jail, my buddy's still mad at me for sleeping over, so to speak, and his sister's even more pissed cause she's a friend and a worrywart. I wasn't gonna let that son of a bitch think he got away from me. My buddy's stubborn--if I hadn't been a jerk about it, he'd have dragged me outta the cell himself. Am I the asshole for staying put? What do you think?

[itsnotmydestiny]

Yes, you are the asshole.

Also, you can’t call me a worrywart when it’s warranted.

[priceonmysoul]

You're biased, he's your fucking brother!

Excuse the language.

And I can too. I'm a big boy, and a holding cell's nothing scary.

[woocas]

this is where AITA is like...really difficult since not everything's black and white

i mean obviously that's a shitty situation the kid is in, but taking matters into your own hands is only gonna make a messy situation even more messy right?

[priceonmysoul]

That's the problem with the system: it's already messy. Probably the way I was raised, but there's no honor in letting someone suffer cause you're waiting for someone else to take care of it.

Getting into that fight put my statement on the record, put him in a jail cell for a night, and it didn't give the father a chance to weasel out of anything. Kid's safe, and I can check on him later, know what I mean?

[blindfighting]

NTA.

Do you need a lawyer? Because I can help.

[priceonmysoul]

THANK you.

My buddy has one on retainer, but thanks. Though for two cents, I'd say give him a call anyway seeing as you're on my side. Arthur Penn, I'll give you his number. Or just introduce you to his sister, Gwen.